fix: 桌面应用跨平台编译和单实例锁

- 使用 gofrs/flock 替代 syscall.Flock 以支持 Windows
- 引入 SingletonLock 结构体，支持锁路径参数化（测试与生产隔离）
- 对齐服务初始化流程与 cmd/server（RoutingCache、StatsBuffer）
- 添加 gofrs/flock 依赖
- 重写单例测试，覆盖加锁/解锁/重复加锁场景
- 更新 desktop-app 规范，补充跨平台锁细节
- 新增 cross-platform-singleton 规范

backend/go.sum

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-github.com/gofrs/flock v0.12.1/go.mod h1:9zxTsyu5xtJ9DK+1tFZyibEV7y3uwDxPPfbxeeHCoD0=
+github.com/gofrs/flock v0.13.0 h1:95JolYOvGMqeH31+FC7D2+uULf6mG61mEZ/A8dRYMzw=
+github.com/gofrs/flock v0.13.0/go.mod h1:jxeyy9R1auM5S6JYDBhDt+E2TCo7DkratH4Pgi8P+Z0=
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 github.com/golang/glog v0.0.0-20160126235308-23def4e6c14b/go.mod h1:SBH7ygxi8pfUlaOkMMuAQtPIUF8ecWP5IEl/CR7VP2Q=
 github.com/golang/groupcache v0.0.0-20190702054246-869f871628b6/go.mod h1:cIg4eruTrX1D+g88fzRXU5OdNfaM+9IcxsU14FzY7Hc=